Elderly care · 2 min read
Dementia Care at Home: 12 Practical Tips for Kenyan Families
Everyday tips for caring for a parent with memory loss or dementia at home: routines, communication, safety, eating, nights and caring for yourself.
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Memory loss in an older parent is sometimes dismissed as "just old age" — but dementia is a medical condition, and good support at home makes a big difference to quality of life. These tips come from everyday caregiving practice.
First: see a doctor
Confusion can have other causes — infections, medicine side effects, low blood sugar, depression — some of which are treatable. Get a proper medical assessment, and ask what to expect.
Routine and environment
1. Keep a steady daily routine
Meals, washing, walks and rest at the same times each day reduce confusion and anxiety.
2. Keep the home familiar and simple
Avoid moving furniture around. Label cupboards or doors (like "Toilet") with words or pictures.
3. Use good lighting
Bright days and soft night lights reduce confusion and falls, especially in the evening.
Communication
4. Keep sentences short and calm
One question or instruction at a time. Give time to respond.
5. Don't argue or correct
If your mother thinks it's 1985, arguing increases distress. Respond to the feeling behind what she says, and gently redirect.
6. Use what they still enjoy
Music, hymns, prayer, old photos, simple chores like folding clothes or sorting beans — familiar activities bring comfort and purpose.
Safety
7. Reduce wandering risks
Make sure neighbours and the gate guard know your parent. Keep an ID card or a contact note in their pocket.
8. Watch the kitchen
Unattended cooking is a common danger. Consider removing knobs or supervising meal preparation.
9. Secure medicines and money
Keep medicines locked and give them as prescribed. Protect bank cards and PINs, and speak to a lawyer about a power of attorney.
Eating, sleep and evenings
10. Encourage eating and drinking
People with dementia often forget meals or don't feel thirsty. Offer small, frequent meals and drinks they like, and keep a simple record.
11. Plan for "sundowning"
Restlessness often increases in late afternoon. Keep evenings calm and predictable, limit afternoon naps and caffeine, and reduce noise.
Caring for the carer
12. Get help before you burn out
Dementia care is a marathon. Share responsibilities across the family and arrange regular breaks — day, evening or overnight support from a caregiver can make the difference. See dementia support at home.
This guide is general information from a home caregiver, not medical advice. Always follow the advice of your loved one's doctor or nurse. In an emergency call 999 or 112.
